(Your strongest feeling points to your most important need)
You're aware of your positive and negative feelings.
Ask yourself: "how do I feel?"
(To meet that need what support could I ask for?)
You are in State 3: A little stressed
Use the Emotional Housecleaning Tool to clear away the negative feelings and to become more aware of the positive feelings that are under them
Complete the following sentences:
You are in the Brain State 4, definitely stressed.
This is a moment of opportunity to weaken stress circuits and to build circuits that bring you joy.
State the facts about why you are feeling stressed. No feelings.
Continue until your feelings become very strong.
This stress offers a moment of opportunity to change the way you process the daily stress of life.
Express your feelings strongly for optimal rewiring.
Feel your anger in your body, and then express it, using short, choppy statements ("I feel ANGRY that...", "I CAN’T STAND it that...", "I hate it that...")
An unreasonable expectation is an old circuit that was encoded early in life or later on during stress. Once you know what it is, you can begin rewriting it.
"My unreasonable expectation is..."
Rewrite the expectation as the opposite of your unreasonable expectation to create a new circuit:
(e.g. “ I have to be perfect” becomes “I do not have to be perfect.”)
Write the new expectation below and say it aloud to yourself 10 times.
My reasonable expectation is...
You are in Brain State 5, stressed out.
Use a nurturing inner voice and repetition to quiet that circuit and to ease your stress.
Say the following lines over and over to yourself until you feel your stress fading.
Do not judge.
I will not judge myself.
I will not judge others.
Know it will pass.
Click Next when you feel the stress fading.
(What need corresponds to my strongest feeling?)
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